I'm going to assume that since you're reading this, you are at least open to and possibly interested in cloth diapering. Many people are shocked to find out that I cloth diaper my twins and when I was still pregnant with them and told people we were planning to continue our cloth journey once the twins arrived, they looked doubtful. I will admit that the thought of doing cloth with twins was a bit daunting but then, pretty much everything about having twins sounded that way.
We jumped right in with cloth with our first child, Sterling at just 10 days old. We did disposables until his cord fell off and then immediately swaddled his little bottom in soft, eco friendly cloth diapers. When the twins were born, we temporarily put away our cloth stash and all three kids were in disposals. I got Sterling mostly potty trained around 22-23 months old and that was when I started to think about getting the cloth diapers back out for round two! I wanted to get a grasp on being a mom of three and hopefully get my oldest out of diapers before starting the twins in cloth.
It probably would have been just fine putting all 3 in cloth simultaneously, but I didn't really feel like having two different sized diapers going. I wanted to keep it semi simple and just have one size to deal with.
So here it goes, the seven things I think are pertinent to successfully cloth diapering your little ones!
1. Buy Used
Before you say ewe, its not gross! I actually hate new cloth diapers. They are such a pain in my bum; pun intended. Cloth diapers can easily last for several children (or more) from birth to potty training.
If you want to buy a big lot of brand new cloth diapers and can afford to, that's great but hear me out on the used ones. Even if you intend to buy new or get them as a gift from your inlaws or sister, it still might be smart to get some used ones to start off with.
I would suggest doing some research on different styles and brands of cloth diapers. If you have some friends who use cloth, pick their brains! There's no one type fits all for this. One of my very best friends uses cloth diapers on her boys and she despises the style that I prefer and I equally hate the type she loves. You have to find what works for YOU.
You may be able to determine what kind you want just by doing research (I got lucky here) but often it takes a little bit of trial and error to find your groove. Pick a few styles and brands that appeal to you after reading about them and test them out.
Where to find used cloth diapers you ask? The black market! Just kidding, I've purchased used diapers from Craigslist, Ebay, Facebook Market, Goodwill, a friend, and at a kids consignment sale... The only one of those I regret is Ebay. That was a bad batch; they appeared to be in good shape but the PUL (the waterproof part of the cover) was damaged and they leaked which almost turned me off to cloth entirely. I thought, "my gosh, this sucks, why does anyone do this?" Your diapers should not leak straight through the PUL. The only leaking thats acceptable is around the top or legs, in which case it's your fault for not changing your kid often enough or you need to use more absorbent inserts (I will cover this later)!
Why I would not purchase used cloth diapers online again? There's no way to inspect them for damage. You can do this easily by holding them up to the light and looking at the PUL from beneath. You're looking for tears, snags or anything that doesn't look completely uniform with the rest of the diaper. These are areas where the waterproofing might be compromised.
Once you find some diapers you really like and decide to commit to cloth diapering, go forth and purchase new if you so desire. Otherwise, there is absolutely no shame in using a myriad of used diapers that still work great and have experienced their fair share of poop. Just be warned, new cloth diapers require several washings before they reach their full absorbency. Its not an exact science, most sites say around 3 washes will do the trick but in my experience its more like 10 washes before they actually "work." It can be an annoying process of leaking diapers and frequent changes during this break in period which is why I think some parents quick cloth so quickly. They never actually get the the stage where their diapers are totally awesome! But on the bright side for you, this means sometimes you can score almost totally new diapers that already have a handful of washes on them for cheap.
Pocket diaper brands I love:
2. Details to Consider
If you have one of those old school, water hogging washers with the agitator in the middle that washes the heck out of your cloths, they are PERFECT for washing cloth diapers. In my experience those make your life the easiest. Don't be scared off if you have a newer HE (high efficiency) washer though. It is possible to get them nice and clean with those, its just going to take a little more care and effort on your part.
Personally, I wash my diapers daily but according to my online reading, it seems I wash them on the more frequent side of the spectrum. I do this for several reasons that make sense for my life.
Ok, now for a big complicated can of worms that I am only recently getting sorted out for myself; type of washer. When I started doing cloth diapers we had an ancient washer we bought used for $75 from a guy who was refurbishing them out of his garage and looked like he might be on some sort of drugs. This washer was fantastic for cloth, it used a lot of water and friction to scrub my son's dirty diapers sparkling clean. I didn't even both rinsing his breastfed baby poop off of them first!
Fastforward two years and a new house later, we now have a HE washer. Fancy and eco friendly right? Nightmare for cloth diapers.... until I figured it out, which like I said is a fairly recent discovery and I'm still fine tuning things. The two big differences in my experience with the HE washers is that the wash cycles take longer and I need to more thoroughly clean soiled diapers before putting them in my washer.
What the heck do I mean by CLEAN my diapers BEFORE putting them in the washer (what an oxymoron!)? I'm talking about removing excessive baby poop before putting them in the washer.
You can do this a few different ways. I use a diaper sprayer that taps into the water pipes supplying your toilet and use that to spray off poo into the toilet then flush it away. Or if you don't have a sprayer, which I did not for the first 18 months of cloth diapering, you just dunk it in the toilet bowl and maybe flush a few times to add some extra water power to the removal. I also used an old kitchen spatula that I would scrap it off into the toilet with and I stored it in a wide mouthed mason jar stashed behind the toilet.
If you or your partner or your dad is even semi handy, you can very easily install a diaper sprayer to your toilet. In fact, the sprayer we have is actually a hand held bidet from Lowes. I've also seen DIY YouTube tutorials where they hook up the kind that is made for a kitchen sink!
What to do with dirty diapers? We use the Ubbi diaper pail that can be used for cloth or disposables. It has a reusable, waterproof, cloth bag that you can use in it for your cloth diapers or incase you are a par-timer, you can also use any ol' plastic trash bag in it as well. Its stainless steel and doesn't absorb odors, it has a child lock for older babies and toddlers who might like to dig in it or put toys in there, and the opening is nice and wide so you can easily stuff a big, dirty cloth diaper in it. That's where I put all the diapers that are only peed in and all of the soaked inserts. I pull everything apart immediately after I take it off my baby and stick it in the pail individually that way later, I can throw it all in the washer.
Soiled diapers go straight to the bathroom where I spray them to remove poop and then they go in a little plastic bucket that has a lid next to the toilet. Our washer use to be in a bathroom so I would remove excess poop and put them straight in the washer with the lid closed until it was time to do the load; choose whatever makes sense for your setup!
What to do about wipes? I am 100% in favor of using cloth wipes if you are using cloth diapers! It makes zero sense to me to be using cloth diapers but disposable wipes. Using cloth wipes doesn't significantly add to the amount of laundry you are already doing. However, my biggest reason is what the heck are you going to do with a disposable wipe when your diaper pail is full of cloth diapers? Maybe you have a seperate trash can near your changing table or maybe you plan on taking them out to the trash with you when you leave but people, thats more complicated than it needs to be.
You can either make or buy cloth wipes. My mother made me about 30 little cloth wipes for me before I had Sterling. She bought an old flannel receiving blanket at a thrift store and cut it up into little 5"x5" double sided squares and sewed around the edges. They work fabulously! If you have a sewing machine you can easily make a batch. I've also heard of people using wash cloths, though this to me is a bulkier option.
With cloth wipes, you will need some sort of cleaning solution. You can do a quick google search to find a DIY recipe or use this one that I came up with. I created my own because all of the other ones I found contained soap and the thought of leaving soap residue (even biodegradable, natural soap) on my baby's bottom didn't appeal to me.
You'll need a small plastic squirt bottle. I actually re-purposed the 8 oz peri bottle the hospital sent me home with after my birth. None of these measurements are exact, but this is roughly what I put in there.
3. The Wash/Fold Routine
Every night after bath time or bedtime, that's when I round up all the dirty diapers from the day and get them in the washer. I grab the main bag from the diaper pail, the bucket of rinsed poopy diapers and any that might still be hiding in a sealed wet bag in my diaper bag from a family outing earlier.
Once the diapers are washed, I separate out the covers and the inserts. I throw all the inserts into the dryer and hang the covers either outside on the clothesline or inside on a small fold up rack to dry overnight. If it's particularly cold and damp I might throw the covers into the dryer on LOW heat for a bit to speed up dry time. In the morning everything is dry and ready to be assembled.
We use pocket diapers so I sort the inserts then start assembling. I know some families assemble as they go, making their diaper at each change but I found it works best for me to put in roughly ten straight minutes of sorting and folding everything all at once so they are ready to go during changes.
There's normally some down time in the mornings while the kids eat breakfast or if I let them watch one episode of a cartoon or whatever. If its an especially chaotic morning, I just try to catch up during nap time and its really easy to assemble diapers while watching a show or listening to a favorite podcast.
4. How to Wash
If you're a lucky one with an old style washer your routine is nice an simple.
5. How many diapers do you need?
This really hinges on two factors, how often you plan on washing diapers and how many children you have in diapers at once.
For just one kid in diapers full time, washing once a day I was comfortable with about 20-25 diapers. I found that he used roughly 8-10 per day and while these were washing, there was still a decent number still clean for him to wear and to give me a buffer if I was really busy and didn't have time to make them immediately. As babies get older, they use less diapers too since they aren't going through as many diapers during the night.
With 4 month old twins, I started out with 27 diapers and I had to do two loads a day. One in the morning and one at night and I had to get them assembled promptly once they were dry or we ran out. I just purchased a fresh batch of 18 used diapers from a consignment sale. I also went through a box of slightly bigger diapers that we had used with Sterling and I can adjusted them smaller to make them fit the twins. We now have 64 working diapers and I think that will be a really comfortable number for us so I can get back in my once a day wash routine!
6. Increasing the absorbency of the diaper as your child grows.
Hemp and bamboo inserts or boosters are your best friend if you have a heavy wetter or an older baby/toddler. They hold wayyyyy more liquid (aka urine) than microfiber or cotton which boosts the absorbent power of the diaper without making it overly bulky. I have no idea how some cloth diapering parents go their entire cloth journey without ever using hemp or bamboo boosters!
I always layer my diapers when I make them. I am totally about to nerd out here for a second, I have a very specific strategy. I use one microfiber insert that I place closest to my baby's body and I layer 1-2 hemp or bamboo boosters under that (sandwiched between the microfiber and the PUL). I do this because the microfiber inserts are really amazing at quickly absorbing urine, especially key as babies start to hold it then pee a large amount at once vs, younger babies who go smaller amounts more often. The microfiber also does a good job at wicking the moisture away from your child so that they are more comfortable. Hemp and bamboo are slower absorbing but hold much, much more so I layer that further away from my kid.
7. Travel and Family Outings
We almost exclusively used cloth on Sterling even when we were out and about. I did this because I didn't want to buy disposables and if you switch back and forth, their cloths fit funky (either too loose when in disposables or tight with the cloth). I keep a wet bag in my diaper bag and that's where I put the used cloth diapers until I get home, just don't forget they're in there. If we travel overnight, that's when I buy a pack of disposables and just call it OK.
With the twins I have decided to use disposables when we are out and about on a daily basis. We still leave the house in cloth and I keep the wet bag handy, but I pack the diaper bag full of disposables. Its a space concern. I just don't have room for 3-4 clean cloth diapers in my diaper bag plus a potentially full wet bag. I do however have room for up to 2 dirty cloth diapers in the wet bag and a handful of disposables. Their cloths will fit lose if they end up in a disposable, but that's not a big deal for an afternoon.
If there's anything I didn't address in this post that you would like me to talk about, just comment below or send me an email. I am very passionate about cloth diapering and I think that it is a practical way of living for most families. I'd love to help you troubleshoot or give you advice on how to get started!
When you're sick in the dead of winter, there's almost nothing more comforting than a hot drink to warm you up from the inside out. A cup of tea is nice and sometimes if you're really into natural remedies, you might have a nice herbal tea steeping that will nourish your immune system. This Chill Chaser one of my personal favorite immunity drinks when I'm feeling under the weather.
With this year's flu season being a particularly brutal one, I thought I'd share the recipe with you! One of the perks to this drink versus an herbal tea, is that it is safe for pregnancy and breastfeeding unlike some herbal ones that can be questionable.
Stay well my friends!
This all started because my daughter Olympia, the girl twin has had feeding issues from the very beginning and our lactation consultant referred us to an infant physical therapist who also practices craniosacro therapy. Even though pregnancy and childbirth are incredibly natural doesn't mean that it comes without a cost. With twins, they are even more cramped for space in utero and are more prone to areas of chronic tension once they are born.
Poor little Olympia was defiantly squished into an uncomfortable position, evident by her twisted legs and lopsided head. The very first image I have of her in my head from when she was born was my OB holding her up and her little legs both hooked sharply to the left (her right). Her head wasn't a red flag until she was almost a month old and it still had a funny shape. Most vaginally delivered babies have cone heads from being in the birth canal so that was what I attributed it to until it failed to round out after a few weeks.
Her body also seemed unnaturally tense; she just never fully relaxed even while being held and rocked. When we took her for her first appointment, the PT confirmed that she also felt that Olympia had some pretty serious myofacial tension that was likely very uncomfortable for her. Think about how awful you feel after sleeping on a bad pull-out sofa bed... Thankfully babies are much more flexible and resilient when it comes to uncomfortable positions, but months of being tightly stuck in that position will still cause them harm.
The tension in her neck was not only making her what my husband and I nicknamed, "the cranky one," but it was affecting her ability to eat. She was having trouble nursing well at the breast and when she took a breastmilk bottle, she was a very sloppy eater and much of the milk ended up wasted down her chin and neck. When her mouth was assessed, her tongue was super tight, especially in the back which prevents her from sucking effectivly.
Infant physical therapy and craniosacrial therapy should be incredibly gentle, so gentle in fact that it may not look like the practitioner is doing anything! The baby should melt like butter in their hands as they work their magic. In our first session, Olympia looked more relaxed than she ever had in the therapists hands. This woman was the Baby Whisperer.
Olympia was the one with obvious problems that needed to be worked on but since we were there and making the trips for her, we wanted an assessment done on Atlas, our boy twin. He only has minor tension. He favors looking over his right shoulder more than is normal for an infant (a slight favoring of one side is normal).
Both babies have a list of homework exercises that we work through each day. These exercises are actually great for all babies! I think of it as their yoga. My babies are already practicing asana to strengthen their muscles and develop healthy flexibility to balance their bodies. These exercises promote body awareness and the rhythmic movements are calming to the central nervous system. Not only that, but it's an awesome way to facilitate bonding between you and baby!
I know firsthand how hard it can be to "play" with young babies; newborns in particular. It's really difficult to engage them in activities when they don't give much feedback and it's essential to their wellbeing and happiness to give them adequate stimulation. These exercises can be done all in one session or a few different times throughout the day. They are a wonderful guided way to interact with your baby while also benefiting their physical and emotional development.
Twin Mom, Yogi, and Health Nut!